Health And Wellness Center: Learning to love yourself

The first step to love a person is to love ourselves. If we do not feel love for us, we can not reflect that love in others.

We strive very much to please others and nurture our love for other people, but really we love ourselves? Self-esteem is essential to love others.

What does love yourself ?

It really is a combination of self-acceptance, respect and self-esteem. Love yourself means stop judging ourselves, to criticize and compare with others. We can not require us to be someone we are not. We must dare to be who we really are, but sometimes do not like it at all. We have the ability to improve and make our potential. It is very important off the mask that we have put to please others.

When we learn to love ourselves, we look for our emotional well-being. In addition, we lose any fear and we grow and mature as autonomous persons.

Love yourself also means being responsible for our life without seeking external factors. It is essential to take an active role to the difficulties. Find ways to solve problems instead of blaming yourself or find a third party to solve. Blame for events that are beyond our control and not accepting our responsibility we can control us lead to low self-esteem, to compare ourselves with the rest and demand more than we should.

Keys to love yourself

Listen to your inner voice
Overcomes the negative thoughts you have about yourself. Sometimes these thoughts are outside opinions that influence our self-esteem.
Do not seek to be perfect
Make a list of your positive attributes and reflect on them daily. This task is often difficult for people who have negative thoughts about themselves, but it is very interesting and helps us improve our self-esteem. Do not use general adjectives, lists specific attributes that describe how things are and that you're good. Each item in your list, however insignificant it may be, it is a reason to value yourself and respect yourself. To love yourself is not necessary to have unrealistic aspirations, but to work to improve every day within our means.
Do things that make you feel good
Seeks to improve your physical and emotional well making plans that you like. Exercise, meditation, a routine that suits you.
Develop your potential
Each of us possess natural talents. You think what you are good and set a goal to improve and develop them. Let your creativity flow and find the great potential you have inside.
Open your mind
Love yourself also means free of the expectations that others have placed in us. Having an open mind involves tolerance, flexibility, interest in the world around us, and possess the ability to acceptance.
Do not complain much. Enjoy the present moment
As we have said before, we are responsible for our actions, but not those events beyond our control. What sense does it spend the day complaining? What we can change is solvable, and what does not, there is no use complaining and lamenting. Assume your responsibility but do not be sorry for it. Do not spend time thinking about past mistakes, this is the only state that we own and on which we have influence. Any attempt to change the past will be thwarted since it only exists in our memory and it is impossible to return to it.
Lean on positive affirmations
If some down in spirits moment, breathe and repeat these statements.. "I can achieve my dreams" "I'm fortunate to be around people who love me." "I am able to love others as they are," I forgive myself and others. "

If you do not believe these claims, think of someone for whom you have those positive thoughts, keep in mind these people as you read them.

In short, forget what you think you should be, do not push yourself too hard, be yourself and accepts and appreciates your life. Remember that it is impossible to offer others what we lack. If we do not feel love for ourselves, we will not be able to have a healthy relationship with friends or partner.