It is essential to watch our children, put ourselves in their place and to be in continuous contact with them in order to view and analyze their behavior in different situations. The better we know our children best we can help them develop their personality.
How can we know our children better?
Very easy. The first step is to observe. What do spontaneously? It is very important not to meddle in what they are doing, just observe how it behaves and in any situation: how to play? What are you laughing? When she cries? How it communicates with other children and with adults? Do not try to judge them are children only, and must learn to solve their problems themselves. Watch them to make sure they will know a little better and you can help them solve any problem, but first you must know their behavior.
Another important aspect is to get in the skin of the child, showing empathy, do not judge without thinking it's just a child who does not have the same age as you, who know certain aspects of life and that their reactions are different from an adult. Understanding their behavior is essential to know how and when to intervene. Although, this does not mean they do not correct certain inappropriate behaviors. But do not get ahead, observe their behavior well before acting, it may be that one day does not do something for a reason, but at the same time understand that it must. Does not mean it is a surly child if one day decides not greet or not answer a question, perhaps that day has no self-confidence.
A very important detail is to know how to listen. Children enjoy extraordinary creativity, invent incredible stories can tell you about issues that are not of interest, but they are very important and should pay attention and show interest. Take time to play with it. Sit at your side and play as a child more, to understand and relate to other children, if you take a dominant role or 'abide by rules' of others.
Keys to communicate with your teenagers
Adolescence can be one of the most difficult stages in a family. Parents are not able to understand their teenagers, and children is a difficult time as they feel misunderstood, they are very irritable, they try to fit in your circle of friends and become frustrated if they do not, physically not end up liking , etc. If you are a parent of a teenager, you might be interested in these tips to communicate with them:
1. Be patient and tolerant show yourself. Respect their tastes, their dress, their behavior and their problems. Maybe for you not pose serious problems, but you put on your skin and try to understand them.
2. Show interest in what you have. During adolescence it is likely to stop communicating with you, but when they decide to ask your advice or tell you a problem, listen. They will feel valued and understood and gain self-esteem.
3. Do not create unnecessary conflicts. Teenagers jump out at first, but do not stoop to their level, you're an adult and you can not raise your voice or not open up to dialogue. At the same time, when they are in a good mood, creates an atmosphere of trust, they feel they can count on you.
4. Outside taboos. openly talks about embarrassing topics like sex, relationships, alcohol, drugs, etc. But in a natural way, do not try to dress up as a teenager, it is something that will not endure.
5. watch them and show interest in their musical tastes, movies, hobbies. You will be easier to start a conversation.
In short, know our children is an ongoing process, as happens with ourselves. We never finished because we know changed over the years. Or do you behave like your childhood or adolescence?
Do you know your children well?
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